When we are moving forward there will be the logical side of things and the emotional side. If these ideas are only in our intellectual mind or consciousness then everything is fine. We are ok. We know logically that things take time, there are no “get rich quick” things that truly exist, “lose weight fast” with some magic pill, or any other quick fix.
We can logically look at life through reaping and sowing knowing that we have to put in our energy like others have to get where they got. But often when taking it to the next level we have to get our emotions involved. This sends us to a freak out situation. Let’s call it the FREAK OUT BARRIER. Our emotions and habits are rooted in our past that unfortunately did not include our new passion or discipline we are looking to grow in. We start to have doubt, anxiety, fear, etc. We second guess our decision and the thoughts we had about our future.
“If a person will advance confidently in the direction of their dream and endeavor to live the life they have imagined, they will meet with success unexpected in common hours.”-Henry David Throreau
Do you notice the quote does not involve the freak out barrier but it does say “if”? Often when you make the first move it’s the scariest. Your old self is trying to keep you where you are. When you go to change things it stirs up the freak out barrier. It is not fun! Are we the only leader who has had these feelings? Dealt with these situations? That would for sure be a big “No!”. We need to break through that barrier.
How do we get to the other side?
1. To beat it we have to become immersed with the new idea.
This new idea has to be cared for as if it was a new born baby. It needs protection, support, love, long hours, etc….to help it stay alive. The baby will grow up and be able to provide for itself. It won’t happen overnight and is not a part time job. But…. the baby does grow up and guess what, you and I were once that new born baby that needed massive help to get to where we are now. Your dream will need the same massive help to go from where you are now to the other side and completion.
2. Recognize the bigger the prize the bigger the price.
If you aren’t asking for much then you won’t have go through much. Look around to others who have actually accomplished similar goals and really ask yourself if we are giving everything it would take to make it. If not, let’s grow more in that direction allowing grace for us in our new habit.
3. Pay close attention to people who’ve done it.
Years ago I was taught, “Find someone who has what you want, do what they do, and you will get what they have.” If you have anyone in your life who you can call a mentor, cherish them for they can bring you through the journey way faster than we can alone.
4. Remember it’s just a season.
We’ve been through times before when we had to learn something new and we can do it again. Many people think a few years of struggle means that we will be stuck in pain forever. We know that’s not true and those feelings can hold us back feeling like a victim instead of growing in what it would take to be a victor. Moment by moment we are working either forward or backward. I have found the people who commit to the process and don’t reevaluate end up going way faster through their barriers and often don’t know they exist.
A beautiful thing happens when you do fight through the first “freak out barrier.” We start to recognize it and can see it the next time around more clearly. We can label it and turn it from a victim mindset that is being led by the scary emotions to seeing it logically and rough a lens that knows we overcame it before and will overcome it again. When we realize that higher levels of growth require this stretching out of our past comfort zones. It starts internally and then will manifest itself externally.
From Proverbs 23:7 For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.
The longest distance can seem to be from our brain to our heart. It’s that distance that we can not just leave up to chance or how we feel…we have to fight for it. It’s not just about fighting for the new discipline it’s fighting to model how to overcome for yourself, your family, and others that you will lead the way for around the world.
We need to fight! Fight to get it in your heart! Fight to leave the old to grow forward in the new! Fight through wishing it were easier, or that this is the best you’ve got to give! Fight through the freak out barrier to get the other side! You can do it!!
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